Sunday, March 22, 2009

About limitations

I came across a post on Lori Anderson’s blog, you absolutely have to read it! It is so beautiful to see how people are able to go through their own limitations, in this case physical disability, and mostly, through the limitations society projects on them.

We are so quick to give limits to what is acceptable for other people to do. It can be with people with disability as shown in this post, but it is more often with our entourage, friends, families, etc…
One example we usually see are the limitations given to kids. It can be by their parents, teachers, or other adults close to them. How often do you hear “You can’t do that”, or “You are not talented at”, or “this is not for him or her”, etc…





............Illustration by my older son.



Those words create mental limitations that are very hard for an individual to overcome while growing up.
What we should never forget, is that we have the experience of being ourselves, but in no way can we have the experience of being someone else. When we empathize with someone, we are empathizing with an experience someone else is living at the moment, but we are in no way this other person with all their complexities.





.......Illustration by my youngest son..........


So when we think of placing limitations on someone else, we should stay humble, and think that we do not have the experience of being that person, then, we might remember that it is not up to us to dictate limitations for the person.

4 comments:

Gary Heller said...

Very well said. I was delighted to see your post about limitations and those with disabilities as I have just had some personal experiences regarding such and just finished blogging about it a bit. I like your sentiment on the matter regarding limitations we place sometimes unknowingly.
Great works by your children, very talented. The sky and universe is the their only limitations. . .

Danangib said...

You're right about limitations and I believe everyone experienced that in chilhood, but we keep forgetting things growing up - they say we become wiser with the age, are they wrong ?
I'm very impressed of your sons' illustrations, they are really beautiful.

angelshair said...

Thank you Gary and Dana for your nice comments, and thank you for your compliments about the kids drawings, I will transmit, I am sure they will be happy^_^!!

love said...

Miriam let me tell you again that I love your blogs! This actually hits me pretty hard. Limitations for me is being called a screw up and never amounting to anything because of things that were done in the past. I'm not going to lie, I wasn't a perfect princess during my teen years. Lets just put it this way, I did enough screwing up for me and my siblings combined. People have always doubted me and that is definitely a low blow to a fragile young girl. I guess if you get enough people telling you that your life is going to be a shit hole, you do something about it. Look at me now, i'm a nurse and someone actually wants to marry me!!!

-Lovelyn

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